Fun before the perks of modern technology

By  LPJ

What was it like when the perks of technology weren’t there? I pondered over this lately and surprised myself with delightful memories of when I was a little girl and growing up in Naga City, south of the big island of Luzon in the Philippines. Through my primary grades and through high school, no computers, no cell phones, no Netflix, and no TV in our house in the province. So, what filled my waking hours besides poring over books. I loved books ever since I could hold one steadily on my lap. And that must have been at the age of 2 or younger.

For one, I played with the neighborhood kids. Because Papa and Mama chose to have English as the main language spoken at home, my playmates often called me “Inglis”. But that didn’t bother me, nor did it deter me from enjoying activities with them as they spoke the dialect of Bicol with me. That’s how I learned Bicol fast. But I continued to convers in English, as my playmates conversed with me in the dialect. I kid myself – perhaps, that’s how my playmates learned English fast, too.

Without the perks of modern technology, we had fun games.

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Laugh at yourself – and don’t worry

By  LPJ

I am not a therapist, but I did not hold my impulse to offer suggestion to someone often distraught with anxieties, to ease up and learn to laugh at herself. She threw me a blank stare, signifying no understanding, or perhaps, was I crazy? The truth is, I had to ponder for an instant. How could I explain myself and still sound sane. OK, I said, laughing at yourself is taking yourself less seriously. Another blank stare. To inch closer to my point, gently but firmly, I followed my comment with — don’t worry.

Don’t worry. How many times do we hear that from good-meaning people. I’ve heard that said often to me, too. Worry brings anxiety that takes out the joy of the moment, or the anticipation and hope for something good.

Do I worry?

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